Cute. Pretty. Sexy. Gorgeous. Beautiful.

The 5 levels of beauty.

Of course there are other synonyms such as striking. But lets stick to cute, pretty, sexy, gorgeous, and beautiful. Cute being the general term, that most guys use to describe most women.

Newsflash: Women dont want to be just cute. We want to be called sexy and beautiful when credit is due. We want to be known as pretty.

I despise being called cute. It annoys me to no end. I dont want you to call me cute. Dont describe me to your friends as "cute."

As I grew up, like a lot of girls I had a very low self-esteem. I didn't think I was cute or pretty and having been around guys for most of the time, I knew what I was called behind my back. I used to hate even more when I'd be called a guy's best friend. Yeah, so now I was the human version of a dog. This is how females analyze and take things. We are good at manipulating what is said. Guys: Don't forget that.

My self-esteem didn't take a turn for the better until well into HS, more specifically until I started having sex. Yeah. That was the turning point. *applause* It makes me wonder how many other girls take a positive turn in how they feel about themselves due to sex. Its bad enough most women are uncomfortable naked, imagine how few of those women actually feel 100% about themselves to begin with and then they hear the term "cute" to describe them. Its like "Are you kidding me?" Makes them second-guess themselves, think about why work out if all they are going to match up to be is only cute. Why be a rabbit about food if all you are going to be IS CUTE???

So then came the words pretty, sexy, gorgeous and beautiful.
Pretty was always the upgrade from cute. You weren't ugly, you're more than decent looking, there's just something weird or unusual about the way beauty is reflected when a person thinks of you. Of course, I am including striking along with pretty. Many guys seem to use this interchangeably. Like guys, seriously, mean what you say! UGH.

Gorgeous and sexy are the words I have a bigger problem with than "cute". We'll get to beautiful in a moment.

Gorgeous and sexy seem to be the words that are constantly used to describe celebrities. Rarely do I hear any guy use this word to describe someone we know. I wonder are these words socially constructed to be used only towards celebrities? Are these women the only women now that fall into that category and can be associated with the words? Anytime I do hear a guy use these words to describe everyday women, I hear the shutdown. "What are you crazy, dude? She's nothing close to gorgeous. She's not *insert celebrity here*."

YUP, that is exactly how it goes. AND It irks me! I'm an everyday female, I am not a celebrity, I want to be called gorgeous or sexy. Like cmon guys, give credit where credit is due! celebrities are NOT the only ones who should be or can be associated with being gorgeous or sexy.

Then many guys say sexy is confidence on a woman. I see confident women all the time and yet you dont think she is sexy in the slightest, you call her of other adjectives.

Beautiful.
I've heard this *counting fingers* 6 times in my life.
2 of those times were referring to how I am, my personality. The other times were pointed out as to how I looked. 2 of those 4 times were the same day about 2 weeks ago. Oh yes, my ego, my self-esteem, inflated! And yes, people I know beauty is subjective, but to hear this, females like it. We like positive attention. Actually, well, we like attention, period but thats not the point... My point is guys... be more free about complimenting women. Stop associating the adjectives we want to hear with the women you will never have.

Besides, under all that makeup, dont you think that these women you perceive as beautiful, sexy, and gorgeous are not flawless?

Food for thought. Thats it.