Me.
Why do people, in general, discuss their problems with others but not with the person it concerns with?
This is so aggravating as it is immature.
For me, this is so... High School. And sometimes I dont even know how to react to things like this because I know my temper and if I am approached in the wrong way, I know I will blow up.
However! I appreciate the other adult coming to me instead of talking smack to another person about your issue with me. And no, I am NOT knocking people who go to others for advice purposes! I am knocking the people who go to others, maybe once in a while, or constantly, about their problems with other people rather than discussing their issues with that person and have it handled.
If there is something up, I straight out just tell a person. It annoys me to tell someone else or to have them come up to me later talking about they heard one thing when I said another. I am way past this and left this behind a long time ago and guess what? As a result, I dont do it anymore. I haven't done it since I was 18. Says a lot about me, huh?
So my issue is if A and B have a problem, B talks to C, C mentions it to D who talks to A, then A tells B about it, how is A being rude when B is the one with the problem and telling it to C instead of approaching A?
Uhh... Confused? So am I. Follow the skit.
A: Hey.
B: Wazup (tension, trying to be nice tone)
A: Nothing much. (Walks away)
B: I don't like that letter.
C: Why not?
B: He's a square. (Slang for nerd... Keep up people!)
C: OH. LOL. ... But wait, I think he's cool. (Uncomfortable.)
B: Ugh, whatever. (Walks away)
D: What's wrong with her?
C: Nothing. She just don't like A.
D: Oh wow. Why?
C: He's a square.
5 minutes later...
A: Wazup guys?
C + D: Uhh, not much.
(awkward silence)
A: What's wrong?
D: Did you know B doesn't like you?
A: Really? Why? =(
D: You're a round circle.
C: What? No, she said he was a square.
A: =( I'm not a square. (Looks for B)
(Taps B)
A: Do you think I'm a square?
B: uhhh... uhhh.. *more studders follow*
A: WELL???
B: No, you're a round circle.
C: LIAR! You told me he was a square!
B is embarassed. C and D get involved. And the issue concerns A and B. -_-
Lets go over this again. A and B conversation... C your way out! ... And dont D it back in.
;-)
Things like this remind me of the nosey neighbors!
3 comments:
I guess it's just easier to vent to others, especially if they know the person. People look for that validation of, "Oh yeah, I know what you mean, she's like that with me too" rather than dealing with the problem, one on one, with the person. It's a cowardly thing to do, but so many people do it.
I confess I've done that! I just need to vent a little before I bitch to their faces...LOL!
The problem is when the person isnt really venting. Theyre more like complaining about something they do nothing to fix unless they are provoked into a situation like above. They choose to leave things by going to someone else about them and then not really wanting to deal with them when a he said, she said situation arises.
Its how gossip forms and continues. Rumors go about. And unnecessary issues, problems, and stress occur.
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